Future Care Preferences

Most of us avoid thinking about death for all sorts of understandable reasons. All of my early shows were spent digging into those reasons (pun intended), and with help from my amazing guests, we learned a fair bit about the stretch of road some call the “end-of-life.” Doing that soul work helped us to accept death, plan for a beautiful one, and most importantly, embrace every precious moment of life as a miraculous gift to be savored and cherished.

Planning ahead offers flexibility, not just for you, but for those you leave behind. I have three kids, and I don’t want to be a burden to them as I approach end-of-life, so I choose to make my preferences known now while I am still able to consider my options and decide for myself. The result is a set of documents that make my preferences very clear. I have discussed these with my kids and medical advocate, and they know where to find them, for when my time comes.

As you plan, it’s important to understand that the medical system is like a machine with one gear: save the life at all costs. That is a doctor’s prime directive, enshrined in the Hippocratic oath they take as medical students. If you want them to do something different, such as allow for a natural death (as with a “do not revive” directive), then you must be aggressive, often with the help of an advocate, in order to force the medical machine to change direction. Even then they might not, and you could end up with an experience you don’t want.

I urge you not to let that happen.

If you or your loved ones do not have an Advanced Care Directive, then here is a good (and free) resource for getting started. I also suggest you get my free document Five Lessons I Learned About Death (plus the one I can’t live without), which is chock full of good information gleaned from nearly 40 interviews with outstanding guests, all of whom were experts in their fields.

The Early Shows

The early shows, episodes one through 38, focus on death, dying and the afterlife, and always include an experienced guest. All facets of death are explored, from the practical, to the metaphysical, to the spiritual. For really useful practical advice, I recommend you get my five lessons, but for the off-beat (which include some of my personal favorites), check out:

  • David Dedrick, one of the world’s leading experts on The Beatles, on how death affected their lives and music;
  • Marc Okrand, A linguist with the Federal Government who invented Star Trek alien languages, and who speaks Klingon death proverbs in the native tongue;
  • Susanne Wiigh-Mäsak, entrepreneur and inventor of the Promessa system that converts human remains into plant compost;
  • Kat the Wiccan Mortician, a young woman who emigrated from Alaska to Tennessee to attend mortuary school…as a witch.

And as you can tell from the examples above, I tried to produce shows in a way that was both entertaining and respectful. My goal is to help my listeners be well informed, unafraid and skilled at designing a beautiful death, either their own or that of a loved one. Because, you know? If you don’t design your life (and your death), then someone else will design it for you.

Why invest time on death?

Finally, many of my friends wanted to know why I focused on death, dying and the afterlife in my early shows. To them it seemed morbid, freaky and just plain old weird.

Freaky and weird I may be, but morbid I am not. My belief is that an honest, unflinching look at death, a perfectly natural and unavoidable process, helps us live fuller and more abundant lives ~ an idea I borrowed from the Buddhists.

Analysis of death is not for the sake of becoming fearful but to appreciate this precious lifetime. — Dalai Lama

To underscore that truth, I produced this short video as a way of answering people’s questions and curiosity. Thanks for watching ~ I think you’ll be surprised at what you find out.


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Some of my early guests were PhDs and MDs, and others were artists and philosophers, but in every instance they were wise people, and I learned more than a few a profound truths about end-of-life from them. Now I want to share five of the most important of those lessons with you, plus the one I can’t live without.

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